**Community Temperature Reading** is the building block for the rest of the relationship skills that follow. Use it to discover and express your God-given voice and to build healthy relationships with others. It's about brief sharing in five categories: 1) Express *appreciations* 2) Use *puzzles...

We routinely play God when we make assumptions about another person or interpret a certain behavior without verifying the facts. We need to **Stop Mind Reading** because making assumptions without checking them out damages friendships, families, and relationship in churches and workplaces. **Clar...

Family patterns from the past are played out in our present relationships without us necessarily being aware of it. Someone may look like an individual acting alone—but they are really players in a larger family system that may go back three to four generations. Track your family patterns with th...

Scripture teaches that feelings are a key part of what it means to be made in God's image. Yet, humans are like icebergs: 10 percent is above the surface and visible; 90 percent is below the surface and invisible. When we **Explore the Iceberg,** we learn 1) unprocessed emotions don't die 2) heal...

To **Listen Incarnationally** is to listen at a heart level, with empathy attuned to the words and nonverbal communication of another person, so that person *feels felt by you.* In unhealthy togetherness, we want another person to think and feel the way we do. In healthy togetherness, we respect ...

The pressure on us to live a life that is not our own is great. Powerful generational forces and spiritual warfare work against us. Living faithfully to our true self in Christ represents one of the great tasks of discipleship. By **Climbing the Ladder of Integrity,** we clarify our values by pro...

Unresolved conflicts are one of the greatest tensions in our lives. Instead of risking a broken relationship, we prefer to ignore the difficult issues and settle for a false peace, hoping it will somehow go away. It doesn't. We learn, sooner or later, that you can't build Christ's kingdom on lies...

A **Rule of Life** is an intentional, conscious plan to keep God at the center of everything we do. It provides guidelines to help us continually remember God as the Source of our lives. It includes our unique combination of spiritual practices that provide structure and direction for us to inten...

A table leader for the *Emotionally Healthy Relationships* course facilitates a sense of community for the group and offers support. Pete explains the progression and logic of the 8 relationship skills, and shows how each one builds upon the other. It is important to prepare by practicing each sk...