Cherish (Gary Thomas)
Millions of couples getting married have pledged to "love and to cherish, until death do us part." Most of us understand and get the love part... but what does it mean to cherish our spouse? Why do we say it once at the wedding and then rarely even mention it again? Cherishing can have a powerful effect on marriage. Learning to truly cherish each other turns marriage from an obligation into a delight. It lifts marriage above a commitment to a precious priority. Cherishing can breathe light, hope, and new life into a marriage—even one marred by neglect and disrespect.
Study Guide Book
Study Guide First Chapter
Cherish - Session 1 - To Love and to Cherish
Examine how marriage really takes off when we get some of our highest pleasure from seeing others honor, appreciate, and admire our spouse. This is one step above even selflessness. We’re not merely serving; we’re *showcasing.* That changes our heart toward our spouse and makes him or her feel ev...
Cherish - Session 2 - Your Honor
*Cherishing* our spouses means honoring them in the most critical moments as well as the most mundane times of life. It means paying attention to their lives as much as we pay attention to our own. We honor our spouses by catching their bids for our attention...by outdoing them with our loving af...
Cherish - Session 3 - Cherishing Your Unique Spouse
What if we cherished the unique and special traits in our spouse instead of focusing on the things that bother us? What if we took the time to study our spouse? What if we made a covenant with our minds and hearts to cherish our spouse above all others, never comparing our spouse with others in a...
Cherish - Session 4 - This is How Your Spouse Stumbles
To keep cherishing your spouse, it follows that you must be a good forgiver—a person who is eager to show mercy to others as you have been shown mercy by God. The goal of a cherishing marriage is to know the other person so well that you understand the dark corners and the weak links in one anoth...
Cherish - Session 5 - Taking Your Marriage to the Next Level
If we want to change the way we respond to our spouse, we actually have to *think* about how to cherish and protect. We have to create new "grooves" by being intentional about how we interact. We have to remind ourselves to think about our spouse with delight. In other words, the more we cherish ...
Cherish - Session 6 - Keep On Cherishing
Youth and physical beauty do not define love, and certainly do not sustain love. Your love for your spouse will be sustained as you take steps each day to cherish him or her over a lifetime together. In time, you will find that person becomes increasingly important to you. When you cherish your s...