The white-knuckle approach is to get angry and ask, *Why can’t they get over it already?* The black-fist approach is to retaliate and ask, *Do you now feel the pain you’ve made me feel?* Instead, we must acknowledge the *profiling* that happens and see the *privilege* some of us have over others. We need to ask *What is broken in the system causing all this pain to spill over? How can we course correct?*