What if the exhaustion you’re feeling isn’t from caring too much—but from trying to carry what was never yours to control?

It’s not that we want to be controlling people; it’s that we want to prevent bad things from happening and bring stability to the chaos—especially when we’re afraid of what God seems to be allowing. So we make plans and become intensely intentional, trying to get everyone around us to line up with what we truly believe is best.

Our motives aren’t bad. We’re simply desperate to avoid more hardship, heartbreak, and emotional turmoil that feels so unnecessary. But this often leads to a counterfeit version of control, where we start believing everything depends on us—a crushing weight we were never meant to bear.

In this six-session video Bible study, Lysa TerKeurst speaks to the tension so many of us live with: when it feels like the Lord isn’t paying attention and the only reasonable response is to take matters into our own hands. She helps us:

Identify the core fears that drive us to reach for control while only adding to the chaos
Recognize when healthy responsibility crosses into fear-based control
Discern the enemy’s tactics that keep us spiritually confused and emotionally depleted
Stop letting other people’s choices steal our peace by learning what to do when we feel tempted to intervene, rescue, or control the narrative
Wrestle honestly with hard questions like: Why aren’t You doing more to change this person or these circumstances? and I didn’t see You do it then, so how do I know You’ll do it now?